I know it has been awhile. A real long while. I'd say I've been super busy or make some lame excuse like that, but it would be a lie. I mean, I have been busy, but not THAT busy. Truth is, I didn't have anything real important to say. And now I could catch everybody up on the kids and Chuck and what we have all been doing, but I'm not going to. At least not right now, we will leave that until next week.
It is so close to the end of the year that I thought it was a good time to reflect on what I have learned. I think it is important at this time of year to look back and discover how you have grown so you can fully appreciate that you are better off now than you were a year ago. And I think most people are better off. Maybe not financially, although I hope you are, but hopefully you are spiritually, emotionally, medically, or intellectually better off. I know I am better off in at least three of those areas.
I have learned there comes a time in your life when you have to make your health a priority. I know, I know, most people already know that. But I had been living a life where I was mostly healthy, I was overweight, but my heart was good, I didn't smoke, I didn't drink excessively, so, in my mind, I was in pretty good shape. But then I had some unexplained pain and muscle weakness. And it got so bad that I couldn't do simple things like drain a pot of noodles or pick up a textbook with one hand. Not being a weak person, I knew there was something wrong. And after a diagnosis of fibromyalgia, I actually felt relieved. I wasn't crazy. It had a name, there was something wrong. But then I had some other lessons to learn.
I learned that although medication can be very useful, it isn't the only way to fix problems. Nor is it always the best. Or does it work the same way for everyone. The medicine that I was prescribed didn't work for me. I didn't like it. I needed to find another way. And I have, through trial and error and supplements and yoga and massage and diet and regular exercise. And I feel so much better, better than I have in a long time. It was a lifestyle change, but one I had to decide for myself to do, not one that I could be forced into.
Which leads me to my next lesson, I have learned that attitude is everything. I will not let this diagnosis define me. I will not let it control my life or prevent me from doing anything. And I mean that. If anything, it has inspired me to work harder and do more. So I have done more this year, made exercise more of a priority, increased my workouts, and vowed to swim more meets this year. It isn't always easy. I have bad days, but as long I don't let myself wallow and I adjust my attitude, I can keep going.
But health wasn't the only lesson this year, I learned how much your past shapes you. Again, I know that that isn't news to most people. But sometimes it takes a journey back to discover why you are who you are is just what you need to focus where you want to go. This year I had a few opportunities, between old friends, reunions, and visits to old stomping grounds to reminisce on my more formative years. Remembering the past made me realize some things. I have done some things I'm not proud of, but I wouldn't change any of it. If I hadn't done some of the things I had, I wouldn't be where I am today. Those decisions, good or bad, led me to my wonderful husband and amazing kids. So, I have learned to embrace my past, both the good and the bad aspects.
It's not just the past. This year I learned to embrace the present. I know my children are only going to be this age and this curious for a short time. It is important to do the things with them they enjoy. Sledding, swimming, going for walks, bike rides, and looking for adventure around every corner. We have had a great year and I am really looking forward to doing more of the same and more in the coming year.
There have been a lot of little lessons, too. And when I look at where I was last year at this time, I know that I have grown. I also know I still have things to improve on. Just like the rest of the world, I will make resolutions for the new year. Resolutions that aim to make me a better person, and I hope my resolutions will also make the world a better place.
Here is to 2014! No matter where you are now, may we all be better in a year's time. Happy New Year!
Saturday, December 28, 2013
Wednesday, June 5, 2013
Worst End of School Year Mom Ever to Best Summer Mom Ever
If you haven't read Jen Hatmaker's post "Worst End of the School Year Mom Ever", do yourself a favor and read it now. Jen's Post
Done, good. Do you still have dry pants? Amazing, because I practically peed myself. This is totally me. I feel like I am being dragged, half dead, across the end of the school year line. Maybe it's being a teacher, too. I don't know, but I am sooooooo done. And that is literally the case, I finished school yesterday. The kids and Chuck have until the end of the week, but that is of little consolation. Today I am just as as exhausted as I have been all year and it is my first day of break. But Calah needed a yellow shirt that we don't have, veggies were needed at school for an all school lunch, 2 field days, camp forms to be dropped off, and oh, laundry has piled up to the point that nobody has clean underwear. And I am seriously tempted to tell them to just turn them inside out. Not to mention I haven't even thought of teacher gifts, crap. Oh, and there is a birthday party for my little guy at our house on Saturday that I have yet to plan. But we will make it. Beaten down by the year, bloodied knees crawling across the finish line, but we will make it.
And once that is done, I am turning over a new leaf. I plan to be "The Best Summer Mom Ever". I have plans of camps, playdates, library program events, dinners outside, picnics, the beach, and vacations. Oh, and Pinterest. I have pinned so many fun things, we are GOING to do them. We will be making our own bubbles, creating obstacle courses, cooking kid friendly food, making sidewalk chalk, and other fabulously fun pins.
Isn't that the great thing about summer? Even when we are dragging across the finish line of the school year, we can be energized and ready to take on the summer. I love the number of times during the year I can start fresh, because so often I fall short of my goals. But I get to start fresh in August/September, January, sometimes even April after spring break, and of course, June. I usually have great and wonderful plans that last a few weeks and then I fall short. In my defense, this year school lunches and bag packing, and laying out clothes, and getting laundry done on a regular basis did last a long time. But I am tired of being responsible mom. Get your homework done mom. Sort the laundry, make you bed, clean up your room mom. It's time to throw some fun mom in the mix.
So starting Monday, we have basketball camps, dance classes and recital to finish, and we are starting those pins. Maybe a watermelon seed spitting contest. Or go for a hike in the state park. Or go fishing, or a bike ride, a trip to the park. And we will keep doing those fun things. At least for a few weeks, until I fall short of my plan and fail. But at least in September I can turn over a new leaf and be a super mom again!
Done, good. Do you still have dry pants? Amazing, because I practically peed myself. This is totally me. I feel like I am being dragged, half dead, across the end of the school year line. Maybe it's being a teacher, too. I don't know, but I am sooooooo done. And that is literally the case, I finished school yesterday. The kids and Chuck have until the end of the week, but that is of little consolation. Today I am just as as exhausted as I have been all year and it is my first day of break. But Calah needed a yellow shirt that we don't have, veggies were needed at school for an all school lunch, 2 field days, camp forms to be dropped off, and oh, laundry has piled up to the point that nobody has clean underwear. And I am seriously tempted to tell them to just turn them inside out. Not to mention I haven't even thought of teacher gifts, crap. Oh, and there is a birthday party for my little guy at our house on Saturday that I have yet to plan. But we will make it. Beaten down by the year, bloodied knees crawling across the finish line, but we will make it.
And once that is done, I am turning over a new leaf. I plan to be "The Best Summer Mom Ever". I have plans of camps, playdates, library program events, dinners outside, picnics, the beach, and vacations. Oh, and Pinterest. I have pinned so many fun things, we are GOING to do them. We will be making our own bubbles, creating obstacle courses, cooking kid friendly food, making sidewalk chalk, and other fabulously fun pins.
Isn't that the great thing about summer? Even when we are dragging across the finish line of the school year, we can be energized and ready to take on the summer. I love the number of times during the year I can start fresh, because so often I fall short of my goals. But I get to start fresh in August/September, January, sometimes even April after spring break, and of course, June. I usually have great and wonderful plans that last a few weeks and then I fall short. In my defense, this year school lunches and bag packing, and laying out clothes, and getting laundry done on a regular basis did last a long time. But I am tired of being responsible mom. Get your homework done mom. Sort the laundry, make you bed, clean up your room mom. It's time to throw some fun mom in the mix.
So starting Monday, we have basketball camps, dance classes and recital to finish, and we are starting those pins. Maybe a watermelon seed spitting contest. Or go for a hike in the state park. Or go fishing, or a bike ride, a trip to the park. And we will keep doing those fun things. At least for a few weeks, until I fall short of my plan and fail. But at least in September I can turn over a new leaf and be a super mom again!
Friday, May 3, 2013
The spring rush
So, I survived the auction. Aside from a couple of loose ends that I will tie up this weekend, I will happily pack away the auction computers and supplies until next year. Seriously, there are few people who understand my relief with this.
And my house is pretty much back to normal, laundry done, cleaned, food stocked. We're good. And that is excellent considering the schedule these days. Calah has lots of dance and I'm helping as much as I can at the studio. Gabe has dance and t-ball, which Chuck is coaching. That is nothing compared to the awards banquets, ceremonies, inductions, recitals, birthdays, graduations, and open houses. Because of us the people at the gas company stay employed and receive those big bonuses! Oh, and the "new" vehicle we purchase definitely makes that enjoyable. I love my new van!
And for the first time in quite a while, I am actually looking forward to Mother's Day. Not because I think I need a special day, or need my family to praise me, throw rose petals at my feet, fan me while I sip tea on the front porch (that happens on a daily basis at my house), but because for the first time in a few years I won't be exhausted. Usually it's the morning after the auction, and I'm tired and crabby. My family just isn't used to me being crabby, usually I'm so pleasant!
I am greatly looking forward to this weekend. I think the kids and I will head out Saturday afternoon for some fun at the local petting zoo. I have dinner plans with the girls tonight, a play tomorrow night, and some quality fam time on Sunday. As long as it is nice like it is supposed to be, maybe we can get some early planting done. Usually, I wait and wait to plant my annuals, but this year the gardening bug has bit me a little early, it would be nice to see my yard looking pretty.
There is school work to be done, but it will have to done in small increments. And I can honestly say there is no motivation today. None, zero. We will did a lab in one class, work day in 5, although in one, I let them stop early and play 7-up. I am always amazed how much high schooler want to play 7-up or get excited over stickers or want you to read them a book. I guess everyone wants to hold on to their inner child as much as they can. Personally, I want to build a tent on top of my bed and never come out (at least some days)
Ice cream.....mmmmm.....sorry, got distracted. Ice cream would be good this weekend, I'm going to have to find some of that.
Before you know it, it will summer and I will be sad that my children have grown another year, but happy to have a well earned vacation. It's always a little bittersweet, but that is a different story.
And my house is pretty much back to normal, laundry done, cleaned, food stocked. We're good. And that is excellent considering the schedule these days. Calah has lots of dance and I'm helping as much as I can at the studio. Gabe has dance and t-ball, which Chuck is coaching. That is nothing compared to the awards banquets, ceremonies, inductions, recitals, birthdays, graduations, and open houses. Because of us the people at the gas company stay employed and receive those big bonuses! Oh, and the "new" vehicle we purchase definitely makes that enjoyable. I love my new van!
And for the first time in quite a while, I am actually looking forward to Mother's Day. Not because I think I need a special day, or need my family to praise me, throw rose petals at my feet, fan me while I sip tea on the front porch (that happens on a daily basis at my house), but because for the first time in a few years I won't be exhausted. Usually it's the morning after the auction, and I'm tired and crabby. My family just isn't used to me being crabby, usually I'm so pleasant!
I am greatly looking forward to this weekend. I think the kids and I will head out Saturday afternoon for some fun at the local petting zoo. I have dinner plans with the girls tonight, a play tomorrow night, and some quality fam time on Sunday. As long as it is nice like it is supposed to be, maybe we can get some early planting done. Usually, I wait and wait to plant my annuals, but this year the gardening bug has bit me a little early, it would be nice to see my yard looking pretty.
There is school work to be done, but it will have to done in small increments. And I can honestly say there is no motivation today. None, zero. We will did a lab in one class, work day in 5, although in one, I let them stop early and play 7-up. I am always amazed how much high schooler want to play 7-up or get excited over stickers or want you to read them a book. I guess everyone wants to hold on to their inner child as much as they can. Personally, I want to build a tent on top of my bed and never come out (at least some days)
Ice cream.....mmmmm.....sorry, got distracted. Ice cream would be good this weekend, I'm going to have to find some of that.
Before you know it, it will summer and I will be sad that my children have grown another year, but happy to have a well earned vacation. It's always a little bittersweet, but that is a different story.
Wednesday, April 3, 2013
Parental Guidance
I am not one that will routinely give out parental advice. At least not anymore. There was a time when I thought I ought to impart my well earned wisdom on others (what was I thinking???), but these days I try to keep my judgments, comments, and otherwise to myself. I am currently of the thought that everyone has to find their own way, their own parenting style. You need to figure out what works for you and your family.
However, the lack of parenting (of any style), has me ranting today. We have been a little vacation this week where we stayed at a hotel with a pool. I cannot believe the lack of supervision that occurs. Cell phones have taken ignoring your kids to a whole new level. Not only are there excessive amounts of children without supervision, the ones that have "supervision" are so preoccupied, their kids may as well be unsupervised. Do parents not realize that this is a pool? With water? Where kids could drown? Seriously, people, watch your kids!
Now, I try really hard not to let the teacher and lifeguard in me loose when I am on vacation. That doesn't mean I wouldn't help someone (kid) in need, but I try really hard not to correct behavior. I have zero authority, I am not their parent, and most kids and parents get really upset when you interfere. But I cringe and have anxiety when I see what is clearly an accident waiting to happen. I cannot understand why parents cannot see that there is eminent danger when kids randomly jump into a crowd of people in the pool, or that if their kid is standing in front of the waterslide, there is a really good chance they are going to get hit. And with the amount of roughhousing going on, a kid could get shoved under the water and not be able to come up for air. For kids, a pool can be very dangerous, especially in an unfamiliar pool with unfamiliar kids.
Now, Calah is a pretty good swimmer, but Gabe is not. Calah can hold her own, but she is not old enough to really understand that even though she is swimming and trying to be safe, other kids are not and could run over her, jump on her, or something else that would prevent her from getting oxygen. Gabe likes to push his limits, but is not confident that he could swim on his own. I fear that someone will knock him off of his safe areas and he wouldn't be able to keep his head above water. So we are there to ensure that those things don't happen. Either right there in the water, or watching closely from the side of the pool so we could respond within seconds. I am not paranoid, but I do want to walk out of the pool area with the same number of children I walked in with. Preferably happy, healthy children that have not been traumatized.
And that doesn't even address the lack of manners and complete rudeness. I try to overlook them and teach my kids that tossing things up the slide is not ok, throwing things across the pool so they land on other people is not ok, and running into other people repeatedly because you are not paying attention is not ok. Silver lining, I guess.
So the pool is rough for me, which is ironic, because it is usually the place I feel the most at home. But the kids had fun, so I guess it is worth it.
However, the lack of parenting (of any style), has me ranting today. We have been a little vacation this week where we stayed at a hotel with a pool. I cannot believe the lack of supervision that occurs. Cell phones have taken ignoring your kids to a whole new level. Not only are there excessive amounts of children without supervision, the ones that have "supervision" are so preoccupied, their kids may as well be unsupervised. Do parents not realize that this is a pool? With water? Where kids could drown? Seriously, people, watch your kids!
Now, I try really hard not to let the teacher and lifeguard in me loose when I am on vacation. That doesn't mean I wouldn't help someone (kid) in need, but I try really hard not to correct behavior. I have zero authority, I am not their parent, and most kids and parents get really upset when you interfere. But I cringe and have anxiety when I see what is clearly an accident waiting to happen. I cannot understand why parents cannot see that there is eminent danger when kids randomly jump into a crowd of people in the pool, or that if their kid is standing in front of the waterslide, there is a really good chance they are going to get hit. And with the amount of roughhousing going on, a kid could get shoved under the water and not be able to come up for air. For kids, a pool can be very dangerous, especially in an unfamiliar pool with unfamiliar kids.
Now, Calah is a pretty good swimmer, but Gabe is not. Calah can hold her own, but she is not old enough to really understand that even though she is swimming and trying to be safe, other kids are not and could run over her, jump on her, or something else that would prevent her from getting oxygen. Gabe likes to push his limits, but is not confident that he could swim on his own. I fear that someone will knock him off of his safe areas and he wouldn't be able to keep his head above water. So we are there to ensure that those things don't happen. Either right there in the water, or watching closely from the side of the pool so we could respond within seconds. I am not paranoid, but I do want to walk out of the pool area with the same number of children I walked in with. Preferably happy, healthy children that have not been traumatized.
And that doesn't even address the lack of manners and complete rudeness. I try to overlook them and teach my kids that tossing things up the slide is not ok, throwing things across the pool so they land on other people is not ok, and running into other people repeatedly because you are not paying attention is not ok. Silver lining, I guess.
So the pool is rough for me, which is ironic, because it is usually the place I feel the most at home. But the kids had fun, so I guess it is worth it.
Tuesday, March 26, 2013
Plans for the spring
The calendar says that spring has arrived!
I am not one that gets all crazy when the calendar says March 20th and the *poof* the snow isn't gone, the temperature isn't 70 degrees, and we can't wear shorts yet. We live in Michigan. It regularly snows during spring break in April....get over it. Winter will reign for another few weeks. Now, if there is snow in June, I'll complain. But not in March, never in March.
However, I am making exciting plans for our family this spring and early summer. From now until the end of the year we will be busy, busy, busy! I sat down yesterday and sort of mapped out the next couple of months. Here is how it adds up:
Gabriel: He is active! He will be finishing up the last of his young 5s program on his 6th birthday. He has learned so much, and his speech is so much better. Kindergarten, be ready, he can't wait! In the meantime, he is finishing up a session of swimming lessons, taking dance class, and starting t-ball. Also, he may be adding a hip hop dance class. He hasn't decided yet.
Calah: Loving the third grade! I can't believe how grown up she is. She is also finishing swim lessons and dancing. She will definitely be starting her hip hop dance class! She can't get enough of dance. And I am so very proud of her. Her musicality has improved so much in the last year. I see her listening to the music to help her know what to do next.
Chuck: Things are busy for my husband, too. With the obvious and normal work for school, he has agreed to again be Gabe's t-ball coach. There is also the finishing touches to his German trip. He leaves in June. He is very excited. I am so happy that he gets a chance to travel like he does. He really loves it.
Me: Well, sometimes I feel like I am the busiest of all! Auction for the kids' school is quickly approaching. That will eat up at least a week of my time, plus some evenings and weekend leading up to it. I am hoping the network hooks up easily this year to save me some time. Also, NHS is kicking into high gear with new member selection and induction, as well as officer election and installation. Maybe I'll get some time in at the pool....I hope!
Then school gets out and the craziness of June begins. Once the end of school celebrations and parties end, we will have Gabe's birthday, which he has informed of his wishes for his party already (just like last years superhero party, but with more Batman, and he wants to go to SkyZone, and he wants to have 10 more kids, and a pool party, and ice cream). Sure, whatever, we'll see what we can do......... On a sadder note, we also have my mother-in-law's memorial. I am not looking forward to opening those wounds with the kids. They miss their Granny terribly and talk about her often. We all miss her a lot. :(
Then it is the recital. And this, my friends, is an EVENT! If you have never had a dancer, let me fill you in. In our little studio (which is in year 5 and growing!), we are having the dress rehearsal the day before. Every group is on stage doing their number and trying out the stage at least once. The little kids are hilarious! On the day of the recital, it is an all day event. We start early in the morning and all the girls (and Gabe) get their hair and makeup done at the studio, then they are all walked down the street to the theater and herded back stage into little rooms to await their turn on stage. Now, this may not seem like much, but as the person in charge of the makeup, trust me, it's daunting. All those little girls (and Gabe!). Fortunately, there is a lot of help. All the moms pitch in, one way or another. Either hair, or makeup, or helping with costumes, or entertaining dancers while they wait, or herding them down the street and into the theater. It is busy and so much fun. This is a big deal. The kids have worked so long all year for this. This is their showcase, where they show off all they have learned.
After the recital is Father's Day, and a couple of days later Chuck leaves for Germany. I feel like after that we can relax a little, at least until our summer vacation!
I am not one that gets all crazy when the calendar says March 20th and the *poof* the snow isn't gone, the temperature isn't 70 degrees, and we can't wear shorts yet. We live in Michigan. It regularly snows during spring break in April....get over it. Winter will reign for another few weeks. Now, if there is snow in June, I'll complain. But not in March, never in March.
However, I am making exciting plans for our family this spring and early summer. From now until the end of the year we will be busy, busy, busy! I sat down yesterday and sort of mapped out the next couple of months. Here is how it adds up:
Gabriel: He is active! He will be finishing up the last of his young 5s program on his 6th birthday. He has learned so much, and his speech is so much better. Kindergarten, be ready, he can't wait! In the meantime, he is finishing up a session of swimming lessons, taking dance class, and starting t-ball. Also, he may be adding a hip hop dance class. He hasn't decided yet.
Calah: Loving the third grade! I can't believe how grown up she is. She is also finishing swim lessons and dancing. She will definitely be starting her hip hop dance class! She can't get enough of dance. And I am so very proud of her. Her musicality has improved so much in the last year. I see her listening to the music to help her know what to do next.
Chuck: Things are busy for my husband, too. With the obvious and normal work for school, he has agreed to again be Gabe's t-ball coach. There is also the finishing touches to his German trip. He leaves in June. He is very excited. I am so happy that he gets a chance to travel like he does. He really loves it.
Me: Well, sometimes I feel like I am the busiest of all! Auction for the kids' school is quickly approaching. That will eat up at least a week of my time, plus some evenings and weekend leading up to it. I am hoping the network hooks up easily this year to save me some time. Also, NHS is kicking into high gear with new member selection and induction, as well as officer election and installation. Maybe I'll get some time in at the pool....I hope!
Then school gets out and the craziness of June begins. Once the end of school celebrations and parties end, we will have Gabe's birthday, which he has informed of his wishes for his party already (just like last years superhero party, but with more Batman, and he wants to go to SkyZone, and he wants to have 10 more kids, and a pool party, and ice cream). Sure, whatever, we'll see what we can do......... On a sadder note, we also have my mother-in-law's memorial. I am not looking forward to opening those wounds with the kids. They miss their Granny terribly and talk about her often. We all miss her a lot. :(
Then it is the recital. And this, my friends, is an EVENT! If you have never had a dancer, let me fill you in. In our little studio (which is in year 5 and growing!), we are having the dress rehearsal the day before. Every group is on stage doing their number and trying out the stage at least once. The little kids are hilarious! On the day of the recital, it is an all day event. We start early in the morning and all the girls (and Gabe) get their hair and makeup done at the studio, then they are all walked down the street to the theater and herded back stage into little rooms to await their turn on stage. Now, this may not seem like much, but as the person in charge of the makeup, trust me, it's daunting. All those little girls (and Gabe!). Fortunately, there is a lot of help. All the moms pitch in, one way or another. Either hair, or makeup, or helping with costumes, or entertaining dancers while they wait, or herding them down the street and into the theater. It is busy and so much fun. This is a big deal. The kids have worked so long all year for this. This is their showcase, where they show off all they have learned.
After the recital is Father's Day, and a couple of days later Chuck leaves for Germany. I feel like after that we can relax a little, at least until our summer vacation!
Thursday, February 28, 2013
My Sister, My Hero
I have three fabulous siblings. They all have there wonderful qualities and I could write for hours about all of them. But I would like to give some special acknowledgement to my sister, Sarah.
She is totally my hero! I may be the older sister, but I have learned so much about being a good wife, a good mother, a good friend, and a good sister by watching her. For those that don't know Sarah, let me introduce you.
Sarah is three years younger than me, but has always been one of my best friends. We rarely, if ever, fought growing up. And even though I am sure I thought she was annoying when I was a teenager, I was so happy when she came to Grand Valley with me, and I will always treasure the time we spent growing up and going to school together. These days she is a mother of three, she writes a column for the local newspaper, and maintains their household in the most organized and well run way, a way that I can only envy!
But let me tell you what I have learned from her.
I have learned to be selfless. Sarah gives and gives to her family. Whenever I call her, she is off running errands for her family, going to playgroups so her children are well socialized (not that my nieces and nephew could be anything else....they are AWESOME!), or taking on cookie mom duty for her daughter's Girl Scout troop (I tried, I told her to plead insanity and give it back). Every time I walk into her house, it is tidy and clean. And, she has modified dinners for her family, so that they can all eat the same thing.
Here is why. My adorable nephew and godson is allergic to just about everything. You name it, he's probably allergic to it. At least all the main stuff. Milk, soy, eggs, peanuts, tree nuts, wheat, etc. For the first three months of life, he was so itchy. We all felt so bad that he would rub and rub his face on your shoulder trying to scratch. When it was finally diagnosed as food allergies, Sarah was nursing and had to cut everything out of her diet. Anything he was allergic to, she didn't eat. For like....almost a year. And then came the challenge of feeding him food. And Sarah does such a good job, she has adapted so many meals that their family eats that are allergy friendly, or there is a quick and easy substitution. For example, the spaghetti sauce she makes is friendly for all and she just has to make special noodles for my nephew. Every time there is a family get together, or the family wants to go out to eat, Sarah has to make and take special food for her son. All of this is reason to give her Mother of the Century (and I mean that with all sincerity), but there is more......She does this all without complaint. Seriously. And quite frankly, she has every reason to complain. Every now and then I expect her to just say she is tired of it all, that it sucks that her precious little guy will never have a peanut butter sandwich, that she is tired of always having to be worried about what he will come in contact with. But she never, ever does. From the time he was diagnosed, Sarah accepted it as a fact of life and figured out how to cope. She is always researching and trying to find new things to make that the whole family can eat (cookies, breads, puppy chow). Whatever she can do to make his life, and those of her other children, as normal as possible. I love her! She is A-MAY-ZING!
On top of all of that, she has a caring and sensitive heart. Over the last month, as my family has been through some difficult times, Sarah was always there to listen. To care. She has been sympathetic and understanding. I have always known that if I needed someone to listen, I could call her. I have other friends and family that have been wonderful, too, but Sarah has been my rock, as I have tried to be for my family. She is my inspiration, and some day, I hope to be half the women she is, because that would be a great accomplishment.
I love you, Sarah.
She is totally my hero! I may be the older sister, but I have learned so much about being a good wife, a good mother, a good friend, and a good sister by watching her. For those that don't know Sarah, let me introduce you.
Sarah is three years younger than me, but has always been one of my best friends. We rarely, if ever, fought growing up. And even though I am sure I thought she was annoying when I was a teenager, I was so happy when she came to Grand Valley with me, and I will always treasure the time we spent growing up and going to school together. These days she is a mother of three, she writes a column for the local newspaper, and maintains their household in the most organized and well run way, a way that I can only envy!
But let me tell you what I have learned from her.
I have learned to be selfless. Sarah gives and gives to her family. Whenever I call her, she is off running errands for her family, going to playgroups so her children are well socialized (not that my nieces and nephew could be anything else....they are AWESOME!), or taking on cookie mom duty for her daughter's Girl Scout troop (I tried, I told her to plead insanity and give it back). Every time I walk into her house, it is tidy and clean. And, she has modified dinners for her family, so that they can all eat the same thing.
Here is why. My adorable nephew and godson is allergic to just about everything. You name it, he's probably allergic to it. At least all the main stuff. Milk, soy, eggs, peanuts, tree nuts, wheat, etc. For the first three months of life, he was so itchy. We all felt so bad that he would rub and rub his face on your shoulder trying to scratch. When it was finally diagnosed as food allergies, Sarah was nursing and had to cut everything out of her diet. Anything he was allergic to, she didn't eat. For like....almost a year. And then came the challenge of feeding him food. And Sarah does such a good job, she has adapted so many meals that their family eats that are allergy friendly, or there is a quick and easy substitution. For example, the spaghetti sauce she makes is friendly for all and she just has to make special noodles for my nephew. Every time there is a family get together, or the family wants to go out to eat, Sarah has to make and take special food for her son. All of this is reason to give her Mother of the Century (and I mean that with all sincerity), but there is more......She does this all without complaint. Seriously. And quite frankly, she has every reason to complain. Every now and then I expect her to just say she is tired of it all, that it sucks that her precious little guy will never have a peanut butter sandwich, that she is tired of always having to be worried about what he will come in contact with. But she never, ever does. From the time he was diagnosed, Sarah accepted it as a fact of life and figured out how to cope. She is always researching and trying to find new things to make that the whole family can eat (cookies, breads, puppy chow). Whatever she can do to make his life, and those of her other children, as normal as possible. I love her! She is A-MAY-ZING!
On top of all of that, she has a caring and sensitive heart. Over the last month, as my family has been through some difficult times, Sarah was always there to listen. To care. She has been sympathetic and understanding. I have always known that if I needed someone to listen, I could call her. I have other friends and family that have been wonderful, too, but Sarah has been my rock, as I have tried to be for my family. She is my inspiration, and some day, I hope to be half the women she is, because that would be a great accomplishment.
I love you, Sarah.
Monday, February 18, 2013
100 Fabulous Things About My Life
I am having a very down day. I have had a lot of those lately. Part of it is mourning the loss of my mother in law, part of it is watching my kids and husband suffer with their loss, and part of it is the winter blahs. The point is: I don't want to feel this way. I don't want to post sad things on Facebook. I don't want to bring everyone around me down. I don't want to complain, so I am doing something about it. I am going to come up with 100 Fabulous Things About My Life. For the record, I am starting at 3:30 on Monday February 18th.....I'll post it as soon as I'm done.
1. Charlie: my wonderful husband
2. Calah: beautiful, talented, sweet, caring, and couldn't be nicer daughter
2. Gabriel: active, entertaining, loving, adorable, and completely wonderful son
(they both had to be #2!)
4. My mom and dad: they have loved and supported me my whole life, even when I'm not the nicest person to be around.
5. Sarah: My sister and one of my best friends. Love ya!
6. Josh and Emily: You can't find better siblings anywhere!
7. Jeff, Ellie, Jake, Anna, Candace, and James: You guys are so supportive and bring joy to my life
8. I still have 2 of my grandparents: and they are wonderful, generous people who inspire me
9. I have a job: and it pays the bills. It isn't the most glamorous, and sometimes it sucks, but I have one.
10. There is a roof over my family's head, food on the table, and the bills get paid: not everyone has that luxury (which by the way, shouldn't be a luxury, it should be an accepted standard of life..but that is a different blog).
11. My car runs and is safe: and we hope my driving is, too!
12. I have a strong faith: Maybe this should be higher, but I am writing them as they come to me. And I believe that God will answer your prayers, if you are praying for the right things. Last week, all I prayed for was peace on my heart and my husband's heart. We got it and it was the first time I felt my prayers were answered. I'm sure it's not, but it may have been the first time I was praying for the right things.
13. I live in a country where women are mostly treated with respect: To live in a country where you are treated as property would be enough to break anyone's spirit.
14. I am independent: I have my own mind, I will use my own mind, and don't try to tell me otherwise!
15. I get to travel: I love to see new places, and visit favorite spots again.
16. I live in Michigan: I love the seasons (even winter), and the beautiful scenery that doesn't exist anywhere else on earth.
17. I have healthcare: I can take my children to the doctor's or go myself without the financial burden that other people face.
18. I am healthy: I can do most any activity I wish.
19. My children are healthy: My heart goes out to people who have sick children and they have to watch them suffer.
20. My extended family is healthy: Aside from our recent tragedy, as a family we have had to deal with very little illness of loss.
3:41--not bad for 11 minutes. And I feel better. Now I am going home......
4:32...
21. Even though I have a commute, most days it is very tolerable: I have a great carpool buddy, and when I don't I enjoy the alone time.
22. I have a vivid imaginations: for many, many things!
23. I am passionate: for many, many things!
24. I am not fearless, but I am not timid, either: I think that I am the right amount of cautious and daring.
25. I have some good friends: I am not a person who has hundreds of good friends, I have many acquaintances and a few good friends. But they are all treasured.
26. I have hobbies: I know there are many mothers who live only for their children but I need my children to know that even though they are important to me, Mommy is human and allowed to have outside interests.
27. I have good vocabulary: I can be my own thesaurus and dictionary!
28. I cannot be pigeon-holed!: I have varied tastes in food, music, company, entertainment, clothing, etc.
29. I have active children: and most of their activities I like to attend. :)
30. I had a good childhood: again, not everyone can say that, but I did.
31. I have value system and I know what is important in life: God first, family second, and then everything else.
32. I was brought up with strong morals that teach me right from wrong.
33. I may not be beautiful, but I know that looks are only skin deep and I think I have a good heart: most of the time
34. I have a sensitive side: This means that sometimes other people's words and actions hurt me, but it also means that I can be compassionate and empathetic.
35. I have a sense of humor: I love to laugh and make others laugh
36. I can play 2 instruments: piano and clarinet
37. I have an education: I value knowledge and appreciate that I have been able to take advantage of the education system in this country.
38. I have a higher degree: that I earned through hard work and a patient husband.
39. The sun rises everyday and sets every night: Even on the worst day, there is always another one to make better.
40. I sleep well at night: not glamorous, but fabulous!
4:55....time to watch my kiddo dance. Feeling even better!
7:13
41. I have good time management skills: I usually get things done in a timely fashion.
42.: I am organized: some would say too organized, but I like it that way.
43. My house has character: I love my house, it is interesting.
44. I was a collegiate swimmer: Not many people can say they competed at the collegiate level, I am proud to say I did and nobody can take that away from me.
45. I am a Masters' swimmer: I got back in the water after many years and am competing again.
46. I am losing weight: Sort of plateaued at the moment, but still down from where I was last year.
47. I like my wardrobe: Shopping is way more fun when things fit!
48. I have a little disposable income: Not much, but enough to get my haircut and a pedicure if I need them.
49. I can cook: a least enough that my family doesn't starve and and most things taste pretty good.
50. I am a fierce advocate for my children: nothing is going to get in the way of what is best for my children.
51. I am comfortable with the major decisions in my life: nothing is worse that regret and, for major things, I don't have any.
52. I try to reinvent myself often: I don't want to get stuck in a rut, and I'm always ready to turn over a new leaf.
53. I am the stain master: I can get stains out of just about anything!
54. My children are getting a good education: Again, happy about the decisions I/we have made.
55. My children are well behaved: they are considerate and pleasant, and mostly behave in public.
56. I have strong principles that I try very hard to stick to.
58. We have good childcare: which has saved us more times than I care to count.
59. We have developed a good support system in town: and considering we knew nobody when we moved here, we are grateful for that.
60. My couch: it may be lame, but a lot of nights, it is just wonderful to sit on it.
61. Wine.
62. The Big Bang Theory: Love it!
63. All of my other favorite TV programs including but not limited to: Revenge, Dance Moms, Days of Our Lives, The Office, Elementary, Blue Bloods, and the Amazing Race.
7:43---time to put the monkeys to bed
8:22--I'm making cookies for Calah's birthday, too, so this may take a little longer.
64. My husband appreciates me: he just told me that it doesn't feel like home until the kids and I are here. Awwwww
65. My front porch: not now, necessarily, but in the summer it is AWESOME!
66. Camping trips: my family loves to camp, and so do I!
67. Good days: Some days are better than others, and my best days are when I see students understand what I teach.
68. Engaged Encounter ministry: I feel really blessed to work with wonderful, dedicated people and have the ability to help engaged couples.
69. A wonderful parish family: The people at our parish welcomed us with open arms even though we aren't from that small town.
70. Mary Kay: I not only love the product, but I can run my business when I can.
71. My neighborhood: it is nice to have pleasant neighbors and a safe neighborhood.
72. A curious mind: I want to know why, how, what, and where.
which leads to
73. A love of reading: mostly fiction, but nonfiction can grab my attention, too.
74. My pillow: along the same lines as the couch. It's comfortable and I love it at the end of a long day.
75. Hot water: Love me a hot shower!
76. Soda: I may not drink coffee, but this is where I get my caffeine.
77. Chocolate: quite frankly I am appalled that it is this far down the list. If anything makes me smile, it's chocolate.
78. My kitties: sure, I'm not a big animal person, but the kitties are nice and as long as they don't throw up, I like them.
79. My massage therapist: yup, I'm in every two weeks like clockwork. And I love it!
80. Snow days: I love getting them!
81. Top Gun: it's back in theaters. I really need to see it. "I feel the need, the need for speed!"
82. Wonderful co-workers: I have great colleagues that support each other in times of need.
83. Facebook: ok, fabulous may be an overstatement, but I get to stay in touch with people in my life that I otherwise would lose touch with.
84. My passport: I can go anywhere in the world! Maybe Mozambique?
85. My doctors: who will help me find causes for problems that I can't explain.
86. DNA: I get to talk about it whenever I want! It's amazing stuff!
87. My house feels like home: and it has ever since we moved in. It feels as though we never lived anywhere else.
88. My husband feels like the only one I have ever loved: it has felt like home ever since we met.
89. 3:30: I get to go home and see my family!
90. My friend Rose's book: I can't say why, but, it's fabulous! Thanks Rose!
91. Electricity: let's face it, life would suck without it and I totally enjoy it!
92. Comfy jammies: again, the couch, my pillow....but truly, I think they are fabulous
93. A warm home: I may have implied this earlier, but this is outright, I love my warm house and the work we put into it to make it more efficient.
94. Challenges: I am willing to rise to them!
95. My relatively high tolerance to pain: I think I can handle it pretty well before I complain.
96. My insistence on not airing my dirty laundry: I try to be positive instead of negative to inspire people out there.
97. My fabulous son: Gabe gets an extra special shout out because he worked so hard to learn how to speak.
98. My generous daughter: Calah teaches me how to be generous and giving. God Bless her!
99. People who read all of these lame things about me. :)
and finally...
100. Even when I am grumpy or sad, I can look on the positive side.: This blog is proof!
Finished: 9:33 pm----not bad, not bad. And I totally feel better about life!
1. Charlie: my wonderful husband
2. Calah: beautiful, talented, sweet, caring, and couldn't be nicer daughter
2. Gabriel: active, entertaining, loving, adorable, and completely wonderful son
(they both had to be #2!)
4. My mom and dad: they have loved and supported me my whole life, even when I'm not the nicest person to be around.
5. Sarah: My sister and one of my best friends. Love ya!
6. Josh and Emily: You can't find better siblings anywhere!
7. Jeff, Ellie, Jake, Anna, Candace, and James: You guys are so supportive and bring joy to my life
8. I still have 2 of my grandparents: and they are wonderful, generous people who inspire me
9. I have a job: and it pays the bills. It isn't the most glamorous, and sometimes it sucks, but I have one.
10. There is a roof over my family's head, food on the table, and the bills get paid: not everyone has that luxury (which by the way, shouldn't be a luxury, it should be an accepted standard of life..but that is a different blog).
11. My car runs and is safe: and we hope my driving is, too!
12. I have a strong faith: Maybe this should be higher, but I am writing them as they come to me. And I believe that God will answer your prayers, if you are praying for the right things. Last week, all I prayed for was peace on my heart and my husband's heart. We got it and it was the first time I felt my prayers were answered. I'm sure it's not, but it may have been the first time I was praying for the right things.
13. I live in a country where women are mostly treated with respect: To live in a country where you are treated as property would be enough to break anyone's spirit.
14. I am independent: I have my own mind, I will use my own mind, and don't try to tell me otherwise!
15. I get to travel: I love to see new places, and visit favorite spots again.
16. I live in Michigan: I love the seasons (even winter), and the beautiful scenery that doesn't exist anywhere else on earth.
17. I have healthcare: I can take my children to the doctor's or go myself without the financial burden that other people face.
18. I am healthy: I can do most any activity I wish.
19. My children are healthy: My heart goes out to people who have sick children and they have to watch them suffer.
20. My extended family is healthy: Aside from our recent tragedy, as a family we have had to deal with very little illness of loss.
3:41--not bad for 11 minutes. And I feel better. Now I am going home......
4:32...
21. Even though I have a commute, most days it is very tolerable: I have a great carpool buddy, and when I don't I enjoy the alone time.
22. I have a vivid imaginations: for many, many things!
23. I am passionate: for many, many things!
24. I am not fearless, but I am not timid, either: I think that I am the right amount of cautious and daring.
25. I have some good friends: I am not a person who has hundreds of good friends, I have many acquaintances and a few good friends. But they are all treasured.
26. I have hobbies: I know there are many mothers who live only for their children but I need my children to know that even though they are important to me, Mommy is human and allowed to have outside interests.
27. I have good vocabulary: I can be my own thesaurus and dictionary!
28. I cannot be pigeon-holed!: I have varied tastes in food, music, company, entertainment, clothing, etc.
29. I have active children: and most of their activities I like to attend. :)
30. I had a good childhood: again, not everyone can say that, but I did.
31. I have value system and I know what is important in life: God first, family second, and then everything else.
32. I was brought up with strong morals that teach me right from wrong.
33. I may not be beautiful, but I know that looks are only skin deep and I think I have a good heart: most of the time
34. I have a sensitive side: This means that sometimes other people's words and actions hurt me, but it also means that I can be compassionate and empathetic.
35. I have a sense of humor: I love to laugh and make others laugh
36. I can play 2 instruments: piano and clarinet
37. I have an education: I value knowledge and appreciate that I have been able to take advantage of the education system in this country.
38. I have a higher degree: that I earned through hard work and a patient husband.
39. The sun rises everyday and sets every night: Even on the worst day, there is always another one to make better.
40. I sleep well at night: not glamorous, but fabulous!
4:55....time to watch my kiddo dance. Feeling even better!
7:13
41. I have good time management skills: I usually get things done in a timely fashion.
42.: I am organized: some would say too organized, but I like it that way.
43. My house has character: I love my house, it is interesting.
44. I was a collegiate swimmer: Not many people can say they competed at the collegiate level, I am proud to say I did and nobody can take that away from me.
45. I am a Masters' swimmer: I got back in the water after many years and am competing again.
46. I am losing weight: Sort of plateaued at the moment, but still down from where I was last year.
47. I like my wardrobe: Shopping is way more fun when things fit!
48. I have a little disposable income: Not much, but enough to get my haircut and a pedicure if I need them.
49. I can cook: a least enough that my family doesn't starve and and most things taste pretty good.
50. I am a fierce advocate for my children: nothing is going to get in the way of what is best for my children.
51. I am comfortable with the major decisions in my life: nothing is worse that regret and, for major things, I don't have any.
52. I try to reinvent myself often: I don't want to get stuck in a rut, and I'm always ready to turn over a new leaf.
53. I am the stain master: I can get stains out of just about anything!
54. My children are getting a good education: Again, happy about the decisions I/we have made.
55. My children are well behaved: they are considerate and pleasant, and mostly behave in public.
56. I have strong principles that I try very hard to stick to.
58. We have good childcare: which has saved us more times than I care to count.
59. We have developed a good support system in town: and considering we knew nobody when we moved here, we are grateful for that.
60. My couch: it may be lame, but a lot of nights, it is just wonderful to sit on it.
61. Wine.
62. The Big Bang Theory: Love it!
63. All of my other favorite TV programs including but not limited to: Revenge, Dance Moms, Days of Our Lives, The Office, Elementary, Blue Bloods, and the Amazing Race.
7:43---time to put the monkeys to bed
8:22--I'm making cookies for Calah's birthday, too, so this may take a little longer.
64. My husband appreciates me: he just told me that it doesn't feel like home until the kids and I are here. Awwwww
65. My front porch: not now, necessarily, but in the summer it is AWESOME!
66. Camping trips: my family loves to camp, and so do I!
67. Good days: Some days are better than others, and my best days are when I see students understand what I teach.
68. Engaged Encounter ministry: I feel really blessed to work with wonderful, dedicated people and have the ability to help engaged couples.
69. A wonderful parish family: The people at our parish welcomed us with open arms even though we aren't from that small town.
70. Mary Kay: I not only love the product, but I can run my business when I can.
71. My neighborhood: it is nice to have pleasant neighbors and a safe neighborhood.
72. A curious mind: I want to know why, how, what, and where.
which leads to
73. A love of reading: mostly fiction, but nonfiction can grab my attention, too.
74. My pillow: along the same lines as the couch. It's comfortable and I love it at the end of a long day.
75. Hot water: Love me a hot shower!
76. Soda: I may not drink coffee, but this is where I get my caffeine.
77. Chocolate: quite frankly I am appalled that it is this far down the list. If anything makes me smile, it's chocolate.
78. My kitties: sure, I'm not a big animal person, but the kitties are nice and as long as they don't throw up, I like them.
79. My massage therapist: yup, I'm in every two weeks like clockwork. And I love it!
80. Snow days: I love getting them!
81. Top Gun: it's back in theaters. I really need to see it. "I feel the need, the need for speed!"
82. Wonderful co-workers: I have great colleagues that support each other in times of need.
83. Facebook: ok, fabulous may be an overstatement, but I get to stay in touch with people in my life that I otherwise would lose touch with.
84. My passport: I can go anywhere in the world! Maybe Mozambique?
85. My doctors: who will help me find causes for problems that I can't explain.
86. DNA: I get to talk about it whenever I want! It's amazing stuff!
87. My house feels like home: and it has ever since we moved in. It feels as though we never lived anywhere else.
88. My husband feels like the only one I have ever loved: it has felt like home ever since we met.
89. 3:30: I get to go home and see my family!
90. My friend Rose's book: I can't say why, but, it's fabulous! Thanks Rose!
91. Electricity: let's face it, life would suck without it and I totally enjoy it!
92. Comfy jammies: again, the couch, my pillow....but truly, I think they are fabulous
93. A warm home: I may have implied this earlier, but this is outright, I love my warm house and the work we put into it to make it more efficient.
94. Challenges: I am willing to rise to them!
95. My relatively high tolerance to pain: I think I can handle it pretty well before I complain.
96. My insistence on not airing my dirty laundry: I try to be positive instead of negative to inspire people out there.
97. My fabulous son: Gabe gets an extra special shout out because he worked so hard to learn how to speak.
98. My generous daughter: Calah teaches me how to be generous and giving. God Bless her!
99. People who read all of these lame things about me. :)
and finally...
100. Even when I am grumpy or sad, I can look on the positive side.: This blog is proof!
Finished: 9:33 pm----not bad, not bad. And I totally feel better about life!
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